Seeking the Gifts

Dog just barfed on the carpet.
Little Dalia is having a temper tantrum.
Oatmeal got burnt while tending to the first two.
Then forty-five minutes late to work because of all of these.

Breathe.  Deep. Breaths.

What makes us human is that we all have experiences that test us.  We also all have power to choose our response. And it’s human to screw up sometimes.  Well, many times. But each day is a new day and we have an opportunity to hit the reset button.

Now let’s look at a day in the life of our children.

Harper called Amelia a “bad name.”
William pushed Rees at recess.
Ellis posted a mean insta about Shea.

Teachers and administrators breathe….deep…breaths.  Then step in as needed. Talk with the students about their choices.  Cite the school’s core values or one of the 7 Habits– maybe “Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood?” or “Think Win-Win.”  We aim to show the students that they have the power to hit their own reset button. And as educators, we must recognize that children need the opportunity each and every day to try again, to get help with learning important social skills, to be forgiven for being human, and sometimes to have the freedom to reinvent themselves.

The work of a parent, the work of a teacher– it is never finished.  That is a gift. It is a gift to be challenged by our children. Ask the parent who just lost their child in a pedestrian hit and run. They would likely trade anything to have that challenging child back for one more day. It is a gift when a child asks, “Why?” “Why?” “Why?”  Their question, if we allow it, can cause us to examine our own beliefs. It is a gift to have people in our lives, be they children or adults that stretch us and enable us to grow. And as we choose how to respond to each moment of challenge, we model that choice to our children.